CONTROL AIN"T SO GOOD

I spoke to a friend earlier this week about the same age as me. He owned a house which he put up for sale under duress of no help to pay his mortgage unless he did something like get a job and get from under his debt. He is also a diabetic (not controlled) and is under treatment for depression. Realize he quit a good job, has no skills other than driving or lifting. So basically he is a candidate for the tumultuous nature of depression and meds to treat. Yet he has chosen the control of his family and their expectations rather than to set his own goals.What's wrong with this picture. He wonders how I did it, I owned a house and own one now, I was on a night shift and still went to church. I am always positive, What;s wrong with his picture is that unless he sets his own goals he will always always always look for examples he can be rather than to know himself. The view of himself will not be his but all those who are around him.My prayer is that he has enough courage to tell his family thanks but no thanks. And may God bless all of us in our efforts to be ourselves.